July 27, 2014


Governor elections are coming up really soon.

Your main tickets are:

Tx. attorney general Greg Abbott (R)

Senator Wendy Davis (D)

Abbott is for “traditional values” AKA against gay rights.

Davis is all for LGBTQ rights.




(via myseri)

July 27, 2014



Ceremonial Dagger

  • Dated: mid-19th Century
  • Culture: Italian

The dagger has a straight, double-edged blade, ribbed at the tip and with three deep grooves. The tang is slightly thickened, and almost the entire surface is engraved with floral motifs. It features a brass hilt picturing a skeleton wearing a tunic, while the guard features is a snake in-the-round. Comes together with a velvet-covered wooden sheath with brass mounts decorated with bas-relieved leaf patterns.

Source: Copyright © 2014 Live Auctioneers

Errrr….what kind of ceremony?

Dunno about this one, but my ritual dagger is used to symbolize cutting the root of my own ignorance. It looks pretty spooky too. Ignorance is a tough enemy to defeat…

July 27, 2014
Better sex advice for real people

BTW, apropos my post yesterday about sex advice, the problem I had with that advice is that it reacts to something bad by advocating something differently bad, rather than something helpful and enabling.

The advice begins by presuming that men are the source of true knowledge about sex, and that the problem with sexual dissatisfaction in couples is that the men are being selfish/clueless. Hence, the cure is to teach men to be less selfish and/or less clueless.

Of course, there is nothing at all wrong with teaching men to be less selfish and/or less clueless. However, this still frames sex as essentially something that is done at the instigation of men, and merely adds an obligation that men should fulfill whilst instigating sex.

However, my experience as a man is that a lot of women feel really disempowered with regard to sex, and some women feel really empowered with regard to sex, and the ones who feel really empowered tend to have better sex, and be better sex partners. I don’t claim wide experience here, mind you, but I think there some truth to this observation.

So if there is advice that dads should be giving their sons about sex, it’s not “you have to make it nice for her.” That’s bullshit. You can’t make it nice for her. You can be nice to her, rather than being an asshole to her, and you should, but if you want it to be nice for her, and it isn’t nice for her, the problem is most likely that she doesn’t feel like she is empowered to make it nice for her. This may be because she simply doesn’t think she’s entitled to have it be nice for her, or it may be because she thinks it’s the man’s job to make it nice for her.

Both of these theories are wrong. If your partner buys into these theories, you may well be able to make sex better for them by following the advice I criticized, but you won’t make it much better for them. If you really want it to be better for them, you have to figure out a way to help them to join in the conspiracy, and not just be spectators.

The other problem with the “the man should fix it” view is that men are also fucked up with respect to sex in a variety of ways, and we need to deal with our fucked-upness, and we need help from our partners to do it. Sure, some of us are total studs who never worry about anything and have a great time (possibly at our partners’ expense!). But a lot of us are just as screwed up as the women in the original advice. We don’t feel empowered for one reason or another, we don’t necessarily know what we are doing, and we need a loving partner who is willing to conspire with us to make sex a joyful thing, not simply a partner who will let us do what we want and gratefully but passively receive any efforts we make on their behalf.

So if I were a dad (I’m not) and I were giving advice to my children, I would advise them to communicate, to be gentle and compassionate in intention even when the activity is rough and lusty, and to be creative, not censorious. To be careful not to say things that are hurtful, but to be equally careful to say things that are helpful, and not just remain silent. It doesn’t help to see the world as a place full of oppressors and oppressed, or actors and recipients. It is a place full of people, and we do our best to bring joy to each other when we communicate, not when we are silent and hopeful.

July 27, 2014





During the Bubonic Plague, doctors wore these bird-like masks to avoid becoming sick. They would fill the beaks with spices and rose petals, so they wouldn’t have to smell the rotting bodies. 

A theory during the Bubonic Plague was that the plague was caused by evil spirits. To scare the spirits away, the masks were intentionally designed to be creepy. 

Mission fucking accomplished

Okay so I love this but it doesn’t cover the half of why the design is awesome and actually borders on making sense.

It wasn’t just that they didn’t want to smell the infected and dead, they thought it was crucial to protecting themselves. They had no way of knowing about what actually caused the plague, and so one of the other theories was that the smell of the infected all by itself was evil and could transmit the plague. So not only would they fill their masks with aromatic herbs and flowers, they would also burn fires in public areas, so that the smell of the smoke would “clear the air”. This all related to the miasma theory of contagion, which was one of the major theories out there until the 19th century. And it makes sense, in a way. Plague victims smelled awful, and there’s a general correlation between horrible septic smells and getting horribly sick if you’re around what causes them for too long.

You can see now that we’ve got two different theories as to what caused the plague that were worked into the design. That’s because the whole thing was an attempt by the doctors to cover as many bases as they could think of, and we’re still not done.

The glass eyepieces. They were either darkened or red, not something you generally want to have to contend with when examining patients. But the plague might be spread by eye contact via the evil eye, so best to ward that off too.

The illustration shows a doctor holding a stick. This was an examination tool, that helped the doctors keep some distance between themselves and the infected. They already had gloves on, but the extra level of separation was apparently deemed necessary. You could even take a pulse with it. Or keep people the fuck away from you, which was apparently a documented use.

Finally, the robe. It’s not just to look fancy, the cloth was waxed, as were all of the rest of their clothes. What’s one of the properties of wax? Water-based fluids aren’t absorbed by it. This was the closest you could get to a sterile, fully protecting garment back then. Because at least one person along the line was smart enough to think “Gee, I’d really rather not have the stuff coming out of those weeping sores anywhere on my person”.

So between all of these there’s a real sense that a lot of real thought was put into making sure the doctors were protected, even if they couldn’t exactly be sure from what. They worked with what information they had. And frankly, it’s a great design given what was available! You limit exposure to aspirated liquids, limit exposure to contaminated liquids already present, you limit contact with the infected. You also don’t give fleas any really good place to hop onto. That’s actually useful.

Beyond that, there were contracts the doctors would sign before they even got near a patient. They were to be under quarantine themselves, they wouldn’t treat patients without a custodian monitoring them and helping when something had to be physically contacted, and they would not treat non-plague patients for the duration. There was an actual system in place by the time the plague doctors really became a thing to make sure they didn’t infect anyone either.

These guys were the product of the scientific process at work, and the scientific process made a bitchin’ proto-hazmat suit. And containment protocols!

reblogging for the sweet history lesson

(via myseri)

July 26, 2014
"One: Buy condoms. Buy them and keep them with you at all times, and use them before you are asked to use them. And use them every time. The peace of mind you allow your partner will free her to be vulnerable with you, and that, my son, is exactly what sex is about. Condoms are sexy. In fact, call buying condoms foreplay.
(Footnote: If you are too embarrassed to buy condoms, you are not ready to have sex.)

Two: Kissing is not merely foreplay. Spend entire evenings making out on the couch while fully clothed. Believe me, dry-humping rocks.

Three: Sex is not just about friction. It’s about emotion. Stop trying to find her clitoris and find her heart. Because then she’ll help you find her clitoris.

Four: If you really wanna know how to please a woman, ask her how she masturbates. Then do that. A lot. If she claims she doesn’t masturbate, offer to take her shopping for a vibrator so you can both learn the vocabulary of her body together.

Five: Don’t put anything in her butthole you wouldn’t want in your own.
(Footnote: Try a pinky finger, it’s kinda awesome.)

Six: When you go down on her—and you will go down on her, and if you are my son, you will be amazing at it—tell her how good she tastes. Stop in the middle and kiss her deeply so she knows how good she tastes. Do the same when she goes down on you.

Seven: A simple Google search will yield 1,327 euphemisms for male masturbation, yet only 23 for female masturbation. If guys spent less time jacking off and more time jilling off, this world would be a happier place.

Eight: Everything you need to know about the importance of the clitoris is in the movie Star Wars. You are Luke Skywalker piloting your penis-shaped X-Wing Fighter deep inside her trench. Remember: seventy percent of all Death Stars cannot be blown up through penetration of the trench alone. It must be through focused contact with that little exhaust port at the top of the trench. Otherwise, any explosions you experience will be merely Hollywood special effects.

Nine: Just because you come doesn’t mean she has, so don’t you dare come before her. Focus completely on your partner. Don’t worry about gettin’ yours, you’re a guy. You always get yours. Your job is to make sure she’s gettin’ hers.

Ten: If sex with your partner lasts no longer than this poem, you are not making love. You are masturbating with her body instead of your hand. Shame on you. Go back to step one. You’ve got a lot of learning to do.
Love, Dad."

Big Poppa E., “How To Make Love” (via wetforest)

It’s a good start, but I have to add that some of these should be up for discussion.  Like 5.  Talk about it.  Just because one partner doesn’t enjoy it, doesn’t mean it can’t be enjoyed by the other. 

And 9.  Sex doesn’t have to stop when one person has an orgasm.  And orgasm does not have to be the end goal. 

(via myseri)

Yup. Remember: women are incapable of knowing what they want, telling you what they want, or requesting anything that you, as a man, cannot give them. So if anything goes wrong, it’s your fault, you did something wrong, and if I were to find out about it, I would be incredibly disappointed in you. Now go out and have fun, son.

(Yes, I know men can be clueless. But this isn’t helping.)

(Source: slambien, via myseri)

July 17, 2014

Wow, the awesome is strong in this one.

July 16, 2014

To say a developer is a coder would be like saying a composer is a note-writer.

Or a violinist is a string-plucker.

An architect is a person who draws stuff on paper.

All of these describe a trivial manifestation of what’s actually going on: creativity.



July 16, 2014
I am a Woman, I am a Body, I am a Womb :: Anatomical Wearable Art by Betty Baker


I am a Woman, I am a Body, I am a Womb :: Anatomical Wearable Art by Betty Baker

I am a Woman, I am a Body, I am a Womb :: Anatomical Wearable Art by Betty Baker

Wearable anatomical art by Betty Baker on Behance.

The frontier of the body is divided up in this layer which separates the interior from the exterior, hidden or revealed. And if we had the possibility…

The womb panties are kind of seriously awesome.

July 16, 2014







"Fuck You, Old People" — Group Piece at CUPSI 2014

"By the way, you can’t actually pick yourself up by your own bootstraps. That’s now how physics works."


this gives me life….

"Act your fucking age" god damn, this has a good message here.

39 seconds in and I reblogged it

This is the best. Thing. Ever. 

I was a little offended by the “act your fucking age” quote at first, but actually I think it’s dead on. We’re supposed to be older and wiser. And a lot of us aren’t acting like it. But please don’t ask us to wear polyester leisure suits.

July 16, 2014
"Six mistakes mankind keeps making century after century:
Believing that personal gain is made by crushing others;
Worrying about things that cannot be changed or corrected;
Insisting that a thing is impossible because we cannot accomplish it;
Refusing to set aside trivial preferences;
Neglecting development and refinement of the mind;
Attempting to compel others to believe and live as we do."

Cicero, 106 BC - 43 BC (via lazyyogi)

It really frustrates me people assume that because we have all kinds of cool scientific results and nifty technology, we are magically wise. Science is awesome, and I love it. The communicator/tricorder/slate in my pocket is really nice. But these things do not make us wise. They makes us better informed (or not, in the case of the interwebs).

It would be great if we could take some of the things science has told us about neurophysiology and cognitive bias and turn them into wisdom. Or we could just listen to Cicero and Heraclitus and the other ancients who already developed it.

(The above are things that you could hear in any authentic lecture on Buddhism, which is even more ancient than Cicero, by a few hundred years.)

(via seananmcguire)

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